i hate liars.. friendster is one.. there’s this "one new message" that i’ve already viewed and when i go back to home page, it still appears as "one new message" and when i open to view the "one new message" it’s the same old "new message" i had just viewed…
liar!
bite me, ma fwends.. no testimonials from me as promised, eh? wehehe! i’m a myspace addict now… friendster happens to be second best now. people there are hotter (LOL)
but then i make my friendster account as exclusive as possible.. meaning, i reserve it for my real friends and acquaintances… for real people. i just am probably thrilled with the idea of the anonymity i have on myspace. virtual "friends", people i don’t really intend to meet up with in the streets. but this could only be temporary…. *sob*sob*
lazy bum bum.. when will i ever start writing your testimonials?! or, heck, why do i even worry about not writing you testis.. am not required to, am i? (well, maybe for those who wrote me testis, i am obliged)… gimme a greek hunk first then i’ll write you one! haha!
here’s
something i wish i had read many, many years ago… even before i had
the gathered the idea of falling in love with somebody.
well, anyway, i still give credit to the author for pointing this one out.
Love and fairness
by Bob Garon, The Manila Times
30 May 2005
They say that, “All is fair in love and war.”
Perhaps all is
fair in war, but there is much that is unfair in love. And unfairness
in love always contributes to a loss of love, to a fading in the
intensity of love.
When two people fall in love,
they expect to give in order to strengthen their love relationship.
They instinctively know that giving is essential to loving and, if all
goes well, they are eager to do so.
There is,
however, another side to the love coin. Lovers expect to receive at
least as much as they give. And I suspect that in many cases they
expect to get more than they give.
More than that, we
were not all raised in the same way. Nor do we have the same values,
same work ethic. In short, some of us are more giving than others. And
some of us are more takers than givers. This is when problems arise in
committed relationships.
Lovers are willing to give as
long as they receive rewards for their giving. Social scientists have
established this as a fact. Even when one partner does most of the
giving, rewards are still expected, if not now, then some time in the
future.
Even in the most solid relationships, giving and
getting may not be of equal quality and quantity. One partner might be
giving more today, less tomorrow and more next month. Giving and
receiving are difficult to measure.
Still, partners are
happy when they feel they are well treated by the beloved. If they
benefit a whole lot less from the relationship, then they become
unhappy because they see themselves as giving and giving and getting
little in return.
The spouse who is on the receiving end
might be very satisfied on the other hand. If he/she is decent, there
will be a measure of guilt feelings. If, however, the one benefiting
from the unequal relationship is immature and a professional “getter”,
then he/she is happy and satisfied even if the partner is suffering.
This is why a mama’s boy who is married to a good woman who, like his
mother, does everything for him, is a very satisfied guy. He gives
little, but gets a whole lot in return. Not a good deal for the wife,
but a wonderful situation for him. It’s a terribly unfair situation for
the woman, but he’s not complaining. As long as the wife tolerates the
unbalanced relationship and is willing to suffer through it all, then
the marriage will limp along, perhaps even for a lifetime.
If, however, the woman grows sick and tired of the whole situation,
then, that is another story. There will have to be changes that correct
the imbalance. If not, the relationship will end in separation or take
on a more adversarial stance.
Lovers can give in large
measures and with a happy heart even if there is an imbalance. They
cannot continue to do so indefinitely without deeply wounding their
love. If love is to benefit the lovers in an optimum way, it will have
to be fair and equitable. Lovers will have to work hard to bring about
a balance that causes both of them to feel like the luckiest people in
the world, even if they are not. If they can do this, their love will
blossom forth and give them a deep sense of happiness and satisfaction.
and then, here’s the catch…
If you have problems about drugs, alcohol and behavior/attitude call my
office at 8206107 or 8251771 or, e-mail me at gvobuenca@vasia.com or
write me at P.O. Box 2099 MCPO, Makati City.
ha! ha!
i thought this already happened last year???
The Red Planet is about to be spectacular! This month and next, Earth
is catching up with Mars in an encounter that will culminate in the
closest approach between the two planets in recorded history.
The
next time Mars may come this close is in 2287. Due to the way
Jupiter’s gravity tugs on Mars and preturbs its orbit, astronomers can
only be certain that Mars has not come this close to Earth in the last
5,000 years, but it may be as long as 60,000 years before it happens
again.
The encounter will culminate on August 27th
when Mars comes to within 34,649,589 miles of Earth and will be (next
to the moon) the brightest object in the night sky. It will attain a
magnitude of -2.9 and will appear 25.11 arc seconds wide. At a modest
75-power magnification.
By August 27, Mars will look as large as the full moon to the naked
eye. Mars will be easy to spot. At the beginning of August it will
rise in the east at 10 p.m. and reach its azimuth at about 3 a.m.
By the end of August when the two planets are closest, Mars will rise
at nightfall and reach its highest point in the sky at 12:30 a. m.
That’s pretty convenient to see something that no human being has seen
in recorded history. So, mark your calendar at the beginning of August
to see Mars grow progessively brighter and brighter throughout the
month.
and then, the best part of this "news":
NO ONE ALIVE TODAY WILL EVER SEE THIS AGAIN.
hahaha!:p
so much for all the bad luck i’ve had over the years (months).. this sem, i feel really really lucky coz am on my way to stardom. hehe! neh, i feel like all my wishes are nearly coming true. it’s like my angel’s been providing everything, almost everything that i ever wish for… lately. my deutsch teacher happens to be the one handling DAAD scholarships in the philippines, my job application (so so but the experience is fun…), my gorgeous greeks on myspace who holla back (kilig! wehehe), and everything else.
am a changed person now, my hair has red streaks in it and i got red nails. morning showers haven’t been this good lately.. thanks to my new shower gel. the body shop’s olive bath & shower gel! try it, peoples… hehehe! it just feels different!;)
haha! it doesn’t mean i hate taking showers, i mean showering lately has been a totally different experience. it’s that jumpy feeling you get when yer set for a date. the anticipation of meeting someone new. the fuss of having to dress up, look good.. smell good. hehe!
the body shop’s shower gel in olive… mmmm.
and then, i feel like a lucky child…
